How Spending Time Alone Makes You Stronger

People ask me - don’t you get bored spending so much time alone? The answer is simple - rarely ever.

When you are isolated from other people from time to time, you start to look deep inside yourself. It is inevitable. Lacking contact with the outside world you don’t get involved with others and their issues, you don’t put yourself in situations you won’t want to be in. You get inside your comfort zone. And yes, it become difficult to get out of it again.

But also something else happens. You do some real deep soul searching. You start asking the questions you would otherwise be too busy to ask. Or too unwilling. And, boy oh boy, does it hurt! That’s is why so many people are afraid of staying alone. Some marry off to people they don’t even like because they are afraid to be alone. They are uncomfortable with who they are. When alone masks are down, make-up is gone, your true self emerges from all the pretense and bullshit you hind behind. Who are you? - a question you are bound to repeatedly ask yourself until you find the answer. If you stick through the pain of the process, you might actually find your truth. And then reinvent it.

You see, when you know who you are, when you know your deepest darkest fears, wishes, secrets, shame, and pride, something else happens. Everything becomes so clear - you also find who you truly want to be. This is where change happens - you look at yourself for who you are, you embrace yourself as a person, and decide who is the best self you could be. Although it sounds cliche, this is an empowering lesson to learn. Why? I have this theory that there are two types of people in the world - those who change and those who don’t. Life always sends us challenges, the wind blows us off the path we’ve chosen, things get complicated. And there is always a reason - as my sister says “Change your ways or change will be forced upon you!”. So, those who do not change stagnate and wonder why things don’t go their way. With time they become bitter and angry, thinking the world owes them something because they have suffered so much. Choose to be the other type of person! The one that is able to recognize when change is needed and jump right into it! What’s the worst that can happen? People who change get second chances in life because they have gone through the difficulties that come with change. They become better people. Better for themselves, better for those around them. Those who take the time to explore their own minds know what they want and sense what others need. That’s why they make great spouses, parents, friends.

See the change when it’s coming. Learn everything new it will teach you. Let that change be your calling for your better self!